How many friends do you have?
I guess your answer to that question will vary depending on how you define a friend. We have best friends, good friends, old friends, family friends, Facebook friends and everything in between!
Friends are a wonderful thing. They make us laugh and lift our spirit with their presence. Our most memorable moments happen in their company. During difficult days, they surround us with love and support.
But no matter how many friends you have and how many moments you’ve shared, everyone reading this post shares one thing in common: We have never had, and have never been, a perfect friend.
By that, I simply mean that our friendships are never absent of disappointment. In some way, whether significant or insignificant, our friends have failed us, and we have failed our friends.
Think about it. While some of your deepest joys are the result of friends, so are your most painful hurts. There are nights with them that you never want to end, and then there are days when you wish you could live in isolation.
Friendship is an integral part of the human existence, and we all have been shaped significantly by relationships that are full of both bliss and sorrow.
WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS
It’s important to know why God designed friendship and what he has to say about it. Through his Word, he has given us an accurate lens that will keep us from being naïve but also prevent us from becoming cynical.
Here are a few guiding principles about friends that should help keep your relationships healthy:
Friendships are intended
In Genesis 2:18, God says that it is not good for man to be alone. This statement is broader than just marriage and applies to God’s design for all humanity. The word “helper” used to describe Eve doesn’t define her as a co-worker, but a companion. God created us live with companions because he is a social God, living in community within the Trinity as Father, Son and Spirit.
There are benefits that come naturally from these friendships. Having a companion for everyday life is a beautiful one. Having someone to comfort you during tough times is another (Job 2:11). Honest friends who will call you to repent is a third of many more (Proverbs 27:6).
Christians, we need to seek out and immerse ourselves in community. While the “lone wolf” mentality is often applauded in our society, it is very dangerous and lonely to live in isolation. Don’t cut yourself off from people, because you’re cutting yourself off from your original intended design.
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